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Archive for October, 2009

That Felt Good! Do It Again.

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What makes you feel good?

I was observing my 3-year-old niece and her not-yet-two-year-old twin sisters a few weeks ago and I realized once again that one can learn a lot from kids. Maybe I should spend more time around them!

As my nieces played at their local playground, I noticed that they only did what made them feel good. Anything else was met with resistance – a “No!”, a cry, a scream, or an abrupt change in direction. If they wanted to play on the swings, they went on the swings. If they wanted to run across the field, they ran across the field. Up and down the sliding board? Get out of their way! They played until they exhausted themselves, until it didn’t feel as fun – as good – anymore. Sound familiar?

Most people who come to my shamanic healing and coaching practice are looking for help, seeking answers to a life challenge. They all want to feel better about themselves or about a certain situation. I like to joke that no one ever comes to me and says, “Joe, can you show me how to feel worse about myself?”

People want to feel GOOD, plain and simple. Anything else seems to go against human nature.

“When you permit your self to ENJOY what you are doing, you give the Universe an opportunity to offer more and more and more of what is making you feel that way. It may not appear in the exact form, but you are GUARANTEED to ATTRACT more feel-good situations, events, people, etc.” – At One + JM

Try this Fishing for Soul Practice:

For one day, pay close attention to the thoughts you have that make you feel good. What is your waking thought? What thoughts and feelings follow throughout your day? Write down your most fantastic, feel-good thoughts, feelings and actions.

Celebrate your achievements.

Allow your self to use your powerful mind to create more and more GOOD thoughts. It is possible to do that!

Amen!

Today I am grateful for smiling children, deep sleep, meditation, Doug McGill, time to write, thinking BIG, morning workouts, new business opportunities, my J.O.B., Fall colors, my breathe and body, friends, family, and fortune.

Thanks and peace!

Joe

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What Are You Grateful For Today?

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“The litmus test for self-realization is a constant state of gratitude. This gratitude is not something you can look for or find. It comes from another direction, and it takes you over completely. It’s so vast that it can’t be dimmed, or overlaid. The short version would be ‘mind in love with itself.’ It’s the total acceptance and consumption of itself reflected back at the same moment in the central place that is like fusion. When you live your life from that place of gratitude, you’ve come home.”
Byron Katie, A Thousand Names For Joy

This year more than any other I feel like I have touched that eternal place of gratitude that Byron Katie speaks of. I have many people (I’ll start with myself!), events, and situations to thank for helping me to achieve that feeling. Each time I experience it I am overcome with a sense of oneness, deep connection, and serenity. That sense of gratitude always brings tears to my eyes, no matter how long it lasts, and no matter where I am. It stops me in my tracks and nearly takes my breath away before asking me to breathe deeply, to see the magnificence all around me, and to hear the heartbeat of all things. It gives me a glimpse into what peace and acceptance really are.

In the video below, Dr. Wayne Dyer reminds us of a few things we can be grateful for:

“Certainly, when you feel the deepening of your own gratitude, you are touching the pulse of a reality that exists throughout the Universe. The never-ending joy that is possible when you are immersed in gratitude allows you to consciously create more and more and more of that which you are grateful for. Isn’t it nice to know that one moment of gratitude can yield hundreds of moments more that are similar? How open are you to that?” – At One + JM

Amen!

(I found the Gratitude image at the top of this post at http://twinmuses.com. Twin Muses creates ‘greener greeting cards.’ I highly recommend that you check out the web site and look at the Gratitude, Hope and Breathe cards – among many other inspiring works. Thanks!)

Today I am grateful for a daily gratitude practice, my parents, siblings, friends and mentors, Byron Katie, a clutter-free office, my students and clients, new business opportunities, my life partner, sex, the ability to think and act ‘out of the box’, Sunday music sessions, the gym, all of the money that I have now and that is on the way, my book agent, editor, and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace to all, everywhere!

Joe

‘Being’ in Action

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On Tuesday I had an acupuncture session scheduled for 6:30 P.M. On my way to my appointment I spoke to a friend and told her where I was headed. She asked if there was something wrong with me.

“There must be something wrong if you’re going to have acupuncture,” she said.

“Everything is fine,” I said. I was going to have a self-care, feel good, preventative medicine treatment and was very much looking forward to my session.

I bounded off the 6 train at 68th St. and Lexington Ave. and walked several blocks to the office of my gifted acupuncturist (who is also a good friend). I rang the bell and out walked Susan with a furrowed brow and a frown.

“I screwed up,” she said. Her regular Tuesday, 6:30 P.M. client, whom she thought was not coming this week, had shown up unexpectedly.

“He’s in there now. I didn’t know what to do. Can you wait until 7:30 and I’ll treat you then? I feel so stupid. I’m sorry.”

“Waiting an hour doesn’t work for me,” I told her. “Let’s talk tomorrow and reschedule.”

“Oh, Joe, I feel so awful.”

“It’s OK,” I assured her, knowing that my words may not soothe her.

I left the office as content and happy as ever. I spontaneously decided to walk north on 5th Avenue and give myself a chance to experience the sights and sounds there. What a gift! The taxis, buses, joggers, and dog walkers went about their business as I strolled. There was the Metropolitan Museum of Art without people or traffic in front of it, the Guggenheim Museum lit up and inviting me in to the Kandinsky exhibit, Central Park beckoning with the colors of fall leaves, doormen chatting on cell phones and hustling to help tenants with bags and kids.

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“Look how this evening turned out,” I thought. “I’m so glad I took the time for this. This is my self-care session.” And off I went to Starbucks to sit, enjoy a cup of tea, and write.

“When you release expectation and allow your self to be present to what is, you marry mind and spirit. Giving your self a chance to ‘be’ is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give receive. What can you do now that is full of ‘being’?”

Amen!

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Today I am grateful to Susan for the opportunity to be in the practice of being, to the sights and sounds of a Fall evening in NYC, for my ability to say no, to Starbucks, morning laughs at the gym with the Diva of Harlem, thinking BIG, meditation, new business opportunities, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace to all!

Joe

I Am Possible

The other day I was recalling a TV commercial I loved and was inspired by a few years ago that was very similar to the one below.

The I M Possible message always came at the perfect time (of course) and I have happily shared it many times. It helped me stop playing the tape of an old story that was on constant rotation in my head.

“When you allow your self to hear and receive the many messages that come from an unlimited number of sources – the messages of love, support, and caring – you open your self to the incredible infusion of positive energy that surrounds you all ways.

What would it be like for you to go out into your day and BE OPEN to receiving the messages that you are asking for? Do you think that the Universe is turning away from your calls? THAT is IMPOSSIBLE!

All parts of you know what a joy it is to be at one with the abundant flow of Universal Force. All parts of you are aligned with that flow now. All parts of you are assisting in the creation of that flow now. All parts of you know exactly what it takes to step out of or into the flow at will. YOU decide. In or out? Positive or negative? Possible or impossible?”

What is possible for you today? Ask and you shall receive. Try it.

Amen.

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When: Tue., Nov. 3, 10, 17, 24, & Dec. 1, 8: 30-9:30 P.M. ET
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Your Investment: $150 when you register and pay by Oct. 20th, $215 after Oct. 20th (Fee includes daily, inspirational updates, a 1:1 On-Track session, and ongoing support throughout the course.)
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Today I am grateful for my silly house guest, reminders to chill out on the weekend, lilies, laughter, meditation, Asher, Lynn, Robin, Fred, my parents and siblings, the AEV community, new business opportunities, quiet time, reading in bed, naps, renewed commitment to my book vision, my breath and body.

Thanks and peace to all!

Joe

What Is A Community?

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There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community.
– M. Scott Peck

On Wednesday night the Almost Economically Viable Community met in New York City. Almost Economically Viable is a social and business networking event that launched rather suddenly this past summer when I got together with three other people who wanted to share their unique gifts and bring entrepreneurs and others together in a setting that was interactive and a bit unusual, and that would help prove that ‘Networking Doesn’t Have To Suck.’ We succeeded and found ourselves referring to the participants as ‘The AEV Community’.

Was building a community our goal? Honestly, I don’t remember (Robin, Melea, Sarah, help me out here!), but it has happened nonetheless.

“Frankly, if you create a great product, you may not be able to stop a community from forming even if you tried. By contrast, it’s hard to build a community around mundane and mediocre crap no matter how hard you try,” says author Guy Kawasaki on his How to Change the World blog.

When I looked up the word community online I found these definitions:

1) a group of people living in a particular local area
2) a group of nations having common interests
3) (ecology) a group of interdependent organisms inhabiting the same region and interacting with each other

Social media marketing strategist Jacob Morgan writes, “I think it’s time we move away from defining a community as anything having to do with a physical presence at all. Sure that can be a factor, but in my mind a community is a collection or group of people that interact and share something in common. A community is actually best defined by the person being associated with a particular community.”

Think about people who are connected and who interact on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking sites. Those are online communities that are thriving.

When I facilitate workshops or healing circles, I like to remind people that for the time we are together, we are a community, and that the community may continue to evolve when the weekend or night is over.

What is your idea of community? What types of communities are you a part of? What community building action are you taking today?

Amen.

Today I am grateful for the AEV Community, Robin, Melea and Sarah, a full stomach, endless amounts of cash pouring into my hands and my bank accounts, fantastic new business opportunities, a steady flow of heat and hot water, lilies, New York City, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace to all!

Joe

PS – I am facilitating a community building workshop of sorts for gay men called The Cosmic Orgasm at Easton Mountain in upstate New York Nov. 13-15. Maybe you’ll be part of that ecstatic weekend.

Community. Common unity. Communion.

What Have You Discovered About Yourself Lately?

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“Every one of us has in him a continent of undiscovered character. Blessed is he who acts the Columbus to his own soul.” ~Author Unknown

Monday was Columbus Day and it got me thinking about discovering and conquering. As I considered my latest self-discoveries and what I’ve conquered this year, I encouraged my fitness class participants to use their exercise time to discover something new about the body and it’s amazing abilities, and to conquer a new challenge – do an extra pushup, push a bit harder in the Spin class. Some realized that physical limits often exist as a strong beilef and nothing more. That’s good news!

“And every time you question what you believe, you become a kinder human being.” – Byron Katie

I’m reading Byron Katie’s A Thousand names For Joy – Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are. It reminds me once again of how much has changed in my life this year – 10 short months – and how grateful I am to all who have been a part of my evolution. That’s a good reminder!

One of the greatest things that has happened for me on this journey of self-discovery is that I no longer believe a lot of the old stories that I used to tell myself. I seem to have conquered those ‘demons’. Or so I think. Maybe I’ll discover that there is more work to do there and then I’ll conquer yet another old fear, limiting thought, or self-destructive pattern. That’s an interesting thought!

I went back to my hometown last weekend. I sat in my parent’s house looking at the familiar and unfamiliar things that fill it. I took my three-year-old niece to the the elementary school that I attended and we ran together around the playground and across the soccer filed. I saw myself as a 6, 8, and 10 year-old running around that field that once seemed so vast, competing with ghosts from the past. “I’m certainly not that little boy anymore,” I said to myself (yes, that was relief you heard). That’s reality!

“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.” ~Nelson Mandela

I like to celebrate myself and my achievements. I’ve been buying myself flowers again (lilies) and enjoying the aroma that fills my apartment. I bought myself a gift on Sunday – a book that I’ve been wanting to read for quite some time. I was reading it on the subway yesterday and was happily lost in the world that the author created. That’s so rewarding!

And so it goes…

What have you discovered and conquered lately? How will you celebrate your achievements?

Amen!

Today I am grateful for The Work of Byron Katie, time to read, new business opportunities, my amazing clients, an abundance of cash, my warm bed, friends and family, letting go of the past, my beautiful life partner, iContact, Robin and Melea, an island getaway in December, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace!

Joe

What Sustains You?

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Sustain \Sus*tain”\, v.

1. To keep from falling; to bear; to uphold; to support; as, a foundation sustains the superstructure; a beast sustains a load; a rope sustains a weight. [1913 Webster]
2. Hence, to keep from sinking, as in despondence, or the like; to support. [1913 Webster]
3. To maintain; to keep alive; to support; to subsist; to nourish;[1913 Webster]
4. To aid, comfort, or relieve; to vindicate. –Shak. [1913 Webster]
5. To endure without failing or yielding; to bear up under; as, to sustain defeat and disappointment. [1913 Webster]

What sustains you? What daily (or near-daily) practice do you have to keep your mind, body and spirit healthy, uplifted, centered, clear and focused? Is it meditation, exercise, talking things over with friends, the love of your family? Is it a combination of things?

I rely on a daily meditation practice, regular gym workouts, healing sessions of various kinds (shamanic, massage, acupuncture, etc.), and a good dose of laughter. That’s my ‘preventative medicine’ and sustainability package.

“When you commit to a practice that sustains you, you find that you have all that you need, all that you wish for, all that could ever be thought of, created, and known.

Indeed, the essence that one seeks is found on the inside. Through the practice of self-care, self-nurturing, and self-love, one finds that the everyday ‘challenges’ that life offers no longer create the energetic drain that they once did.

When the heart and mind are clear and calm, creativity and receptivity know no bounds. How unbound are you?” – At One

Well?

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When: Tue., Nov. 3, 10, 17, 24, & Dec. 1, 8:30-9:30 P.M. ET
Where: TeleConference Line (phone # given upon registration)
Your Investment: $150 when you register and pay by Oct. 20th, $215 after Oct. 20th (Fee includes daily, inspirational updates, a 1:1 On-Track session, and ongoing support throughout the course.)
Registration and info: joemonkman@earthspiritworks.com

I look forward to sharing that journey with you.

Today I am grateful for the opportunity to create more time for myself and my joyful practices, an abundance of business opportunities, love from a multitude of sources, my workout partner who motivates me to get out of bed in the morning, the wind, this blog, my friends and family, clients, teachers, my book agent, editor and publisher.

May you have your best day ever, and then some.

Thanks and peace!

Joe