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I Want Your Love! I Need Your Love!

Desperation is not love.

“When you find your self begging someone to love you (even if it’s just as a thought) it never feels good, does it?

What if you could give your self all of the love that you think someone else should provide?

What if every day you saw your self as your best lover, friend, nurturer?

What if you hugged and hugged and stroked and kissed your self and told your self how beautiful and talented and wonderful you are?

What if you looked in the mirror and saw the many faces of love that you are?

What if you called your self by your true name: LOVE.”

– At One

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:

Abundant gratitude to all the lovers in the world, to those who ‘seek’ and share love, and to all who desire to know the many facets of love. I am grateful today for my breath, my lips and nose and mouth, my tasty tongue, my ears, my hands and feet, family and friends, the sun, moon and stars, wind and rain, ocean and sand, my house at the beach, my upcoming vacation, my book agent, editor and publisher.




Love Is…

“Whatever and whoever you love, love them without limits. Try not to say no to love. Open your arms to it and watch it come to you from a million different sources (or more). Continue to ask love to show you where it lives and you may be surprised where it resides. Of course it is everywhere and in everything and everyone. How can it not be?”
– At One

“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.”
– Johnny Depp in Don Juan DeMarco

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything and love is all there is.”
– Gary Zukav

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.”
– His Holiness the Dalai lama

“Our goal while on this earth is to transcend our illusions and discover the innate power of our spirit. We are responsible for what we create, and we must therefore learn to act and think with love and wisdom and live in service to others and all life.”
– Carolyn Myss

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“I allow love and laughter to fill my life.”

Thanks today to the tranquility that a blanket of snow brings, friends who call and make me laugh, chocolate, my book agent, editor and publisher, wisdom from many sources, my accountant, the IRS, new and prosperous business deals, guidance from diverse sources, and Narativ, Inc.

Have a peace-filled day!


Bring On The Love!

Valentine’s Day is coming up on Sunday (Feb. 14th), so I thought I’d dedicate this weeks posts to the topic of love.

As I sat to type this, two examinations of love appeared on my Google News Sidebar. One is a scientific piece on how love may be measured, and the other is about an Indian woman called Amma who shares love freely through a hug (a hug that I have experienced and wrote about on this site last July).


So we’ve got science and spirit working the love angle.

Here is what my spirit had to say about the subject:

““When was the last time you danced with someone you love?

When was the last time you sat quietly, looking into the eyes of someone you love?

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said, ‘I love you’?

Love will all ways be here, waiting for you to tune in, to acknowledge and receive it. It cannot go away. It lives, endlessly, inside of you and all things.

Love just loves.

How about you?”

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“Love is all around me. I welcome it all ways.”

Today I am grateful for another opportunity to know love, to joyfully share my vision through this blog, to know and love so many amazing people, and to make money by doing what I love. I am grateful for Odwalla Mango Tango juice, the Jefferson Market Library, ever-changing technology, my new mini-notebook, new and prosperous business opportunities, and my book agent, editor and publisher.

Thanks and peace to all!


Do You Manifest More from Love or Fear? (and does it matter?)

Seth Godin posted a blog yesterday titled Is There a Fear Shortage? and it made me think once again about how much time we spend focusing on the positive vs. the negative and how that affects what we manifest.

“It doesn’t matter what you are thinking and feeling, the point is that you are thinking and feeling. The Universe all ways responds to that. It is not good or bad, it just is.

Creating something from fear is often a stressful way to go about it. This is not news to many of you. Creating from love is pure joy. Either way there will be an outcome. Would you prefer to get something done when you are afraid, worried, or uncomfortable? Of course that happens all the time and it affects your physical well-being.

When you switch gears and act from a calm, allowing, soft place there is more room for you to feel good, to relax into the creative process, and to appreciate the results.

Take time to pay attention to your thoughts as you perform even the ‘simplest’ tasks. What emotions are you experiencing? Notice your breath and your posture. Those are all clues to your full body/mind state.

If you are tense or uptight in any way, give your self as much time as possible to shift into a better feeling place. Once you are there, go on and complete the task at hand. Please remember that this applies to EVERYTHING, no matter if you think it is big or small.

Try it. We think you’ll like it.”
– At One + JM

Thanks go out today to the New York Shamanic Circle for the Monday night laughter, JH Callaway for the artful inspirations, my students at the McBurney Y for their hard work at the start of the new year, my breath and body for constant support, creative productivity, tech support, post it notes, meditation, At One, Woom, and all the other invisible support systems.


Thanks and peace to all.


The Gift of Giving

“‘Tis the season” goes the saying and this holiday season you may be thinking about what and how to give.

Here in New York City, Christmas shoppers are hustling and bustling though the stores, on the streets, and in the subways. I often wonder where they get their stamina and how they can carry so many packages. I also wonder why they are out there shopping. Are they doing it because they feel like they have to give something, anything, the ‘right’ thing, or are they shopping for presents for the sheer joy of giving?

I asked myself those same questions and this is what I heard in response:

“”Whenever you are ready to give, then give. Do not think about what it will look like, or how it will be received, just GIVE.

When you give without expectation and without worry, you will find that YOU RECEIVE. That is the way of it.

What do you have inside of you that you can offer NOW? The smallest gift can bring the greatest rewards.

Be free in your giving and BE OPEN to the joy of it.

There is no thing greater than when you align your self with giving from the place of utmost integrity and authenticity.

There lies the true gift.

And so we say – Thank You!” – At One + JM


Give to yourself this season.
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If you are in NYC on Dec. 19th, please come and celebrate with us at our Annual Shamanic Candlelight Fire Ceremony, an ancient, uplifting ceremony of transformation and purification.
Celebrate the Winter Solstice and your self as you humbly and gratefully release 2009 and welcome the exciting, prosperous New Year. Let your heart and soul soar as we gather to experience the healing and ecstatic energies of fire and allow it to help us trade in our old story for a brand new one.

When: Sat., Dec. 19, 2009, 7-10pm
Where: 1133 Broadway @ 26th St., 2nd Fl, Rm 245, NYC
What to Bring: A rattle or drum (some will be provided), a birthday cake candle, an intention for transformation to share with the group
Your Investment: $60
Registration and Info: Earth Spirit Works Web Site

I hope to see (or just hear) you at one of those events.

Today I am grateful for all that I have been given, all that I have now, and all that will come. I am grateful for the beautiful Earth and the endless stream of nourishment and support that it provides, the sky for it’s magnificent shadows and light, my body and breath, my wise friends, family and teachers, new and prosperous business opportunities and connections, my clients, my computer and Blackberry, love, sex and magic.

Thanks and peace to all!


What Have You Discovered About Yourself Lately?


“Every one of us has in him a continent of undiscovered character. Blessed is he who acts the Columbus to his own soul.” ~Author Unknown

Monday was Columbus Day and it got me thinking about discovering and conquering. As I considered my latest self-discoveries and what I’ve conquered this year, I encouraged my fitness class participants to use their exercise time to discover something new about the body and it’s amazing abilities, and to conquer a new challenge – do an extra pushup, push a bit harder in the Spin class. Some realized that physical limits often exist as a strong beilef and nothing more. That’s good news!

“And every time you question what you believe, you become a kinder human being.” – Byron Katie

I’m reading Byron Katie’s A Thousand names For Joy – Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are. It reminds me once again of how much has changed in my life this year – 10 short months – and how grateful I am to all who have been a part of my evolution. That’s a good reminder!

One of the greatest things that has happened for me on this journey of self-discovery is that I no longer believe a lot of the old stories that I used to tell myself. I seem to have conquered those ‘demons’. Or so I think. Maybe I’ll discover that there is more work to do there and then I’ll conquer yet another old fear, limiting thought, or self-destructive pattern. That’s an interesting thought!

I went back to my hometown last weekend. I sat in my parent’s house looking at the familiar and unfamiliar things that fill it. I took my three-year-old niece to the the elementary school that I attended and we ran together around the playground and across the soccer filed. I saw myself as a 6, 8, and 10 year-old running around that field that once seemed so vast, competing with ghosts from the past. “I’m certainly not that little boy anymore,” I said to myself (yes, that was relief you heard). That’s reality!

“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.” ~Nelson Mandela

I like to celebrate myself and my achievements. I’ve been buying myself flowers again (lilies) and enjoying the aroma that fills my apartment. I bought myself a gift on Sunday – a book that I’ve been wanting to read for quite some time. I was reading it on the subway yesterday and was happily lost in the world that the author created. That’s so rewarding!

And so it goes…

What have you discovered and conquered lately? How will you celebrate your achievements?


Today I am grateful for The Work of Byron Katie, time to read, new business opportunities, my amazing clients, an abundance of cash, my warm bed, friends and family, letting go of the past, my beautiful life partner, iContact, Robin and Melea, an island getaway in December, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace!


Loving Our Parents

Affirmation: “I am forever grateful for the loving relationship that I have with my parents.”


My parents sat together on the couch in their living room last Saturday night – my mom at one end sitting upright, eyes wide, smiling and talking, talking, talking, and my dad at the other end with his head in his left hand, eyes half open, listening and interrupting to correct my mother every now and then.

That is an all too familiar scene at my parent’s house and as it unfolded yet again I thought, “They’ve been doing this for 50 years. How incredible is that?” My heart was overflowing with love and admiration. “Those are my parents and I love them no matter what.”

In Tuesday’s blog I mentioned that my parents had celebrated 50 years of togetherness last Saturday. 50 years of marriage. 50 years of sharing the same house, the same bathrooms, the same bed, the same cars, the same dishes, etc. 50 years, six children and 11 grandchildren. 50 years of ups and downs, and in and outs. How incredible is that?

Throughout the weekend at my parent’s I found myself wondering what it would be like to not have them around. I got choked up as I watched my niece’s video montage play on a laptop at the anniversary gathering. Years of memories appeared on the screen, and image after image took me back to 1969, 1973, 1977, 1984, 1991, 1998, 2002, and so on. With each picture and passing year I saw how my parents, and everyone else in those photos, have aged. “Time is going by very fast,” I said to myself. “Pay attention and share the love.”

“When you can see your parents as the incredible beings that they truly are (just like you!), you allow your self the PLEASURE that comes from feeling LOVE.

Even if you have not met the people who gave you life, you can still honor them, love them, and be in gratitude for their coming together and CREATING you.

Even if you believe that your parents mistreated you in some way, you can still pray for them, honor their path, and send them LOVE. For without those two beings, where would you be now?” – At One


Today I am extremely grateful for Janet and Rod and all that they have given me, my siblings, my childhood home, the town of Folsom, PA, the ability to forgive, grow up, and move on, my new Blackberry, friends old and new, my life partner, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.

Thanks and peace!