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Come Out Of Hiding

My friend Greg has declared this year to be The Year of Profound Visibility. When I read his blog about the topic , it prompted the following meditation message.

“When you say that you want to be seen and heard, the immediate response of the Universe is to provide you with an abundance of opportunities to be that.

When you say that you want to come out of hiding and let the world see you for who you are, the Universe responds by bringing you home to you, asking you to acknowledge the beauty, the intelligence, the wit and the charm that is you.

When you say that now is the moment, the Universe says, “Every moment is the moment, every moment that passed was THE moment, and now you are knowing that.”

Let the Universe (which includes your friends, family, co-workers, the person you bump into on the street, the traffic, the sunshine, the clouds, the mountains, the streams, the stones, the animals at the zoo, etc.) show you who you are. Your job is to embrace it (or not!) – ALL OF IT – with love. You love you and all that is around you, and then you will be seen and heard and felt and acknowledged and loved and welcomed, and then – surprise! – none of it will even matter because there is no one, no thing that can see you or hear you but you.

Come out of hiding. Stop hiding from your self and open your arms to All That Is. What else is there?”

OK! I’ll meditate on that.

Thanks to Greg for the profound inspiration, Fred for the focus that comes with a daily action call, Robin for sending and resending info that sometimes eludes me, Holly for cooking, my guru cat for teaching me about asking for what I want, my hands and feet, my breath, my heart and lungs, my Y students, and a good nights sleep.

You can read more about Greg’s success plan on his web site,The Gay Guys Love Coach.

Are You Doing It?

What are you doing now? Are you taking action toward your new years goals? Are you committed to getting past the 6-week mark that the majority of new year resolution makers fail to get beyond in order to see your dreams manifest?

The other morning before I left home for the day I spent some time working on my goal of decluttering my home office. It’s part of my overall Success Plan. My habit of piling papers is getting old (again) and I’m determined to stick to my new system. After setting a timer for 30 minutes to concentrate soley on ridding my space of the build-up, I picked up one paper at a time and did not pause until I found it a home – in the recycle bin, in a file, or elsewhere – anywhere but into another pile. At the end of the allotted time I had made great progress.

An hour later I was sitting on the downtown #3 train thinking about what I’d accomplished. I looked up and saw an advertisement for the School of Visual Arts. In bold letters was one word: do

How are you sticking to your goals? What’s your plan?

Below are four easy ways to stay motivated and on track:

1) Create a Vision Board that depicts your realized dreams in image form and post it in a prominent place in your home or office.
2) Begin or resume a daily practice of listening and sitting quietly for at least five minutes each day as you follow the flow of your breath and your thoughts. (Some people call this meditation.)
3) Call upon your support team, which could include friends, family, co-workers, a therapist, or spiritual guide when you feel out-of-sorts, confused, sad, happy, have had a breakthrough, would like company, are in need of a hug, want to share a dream, etc.
4) Acknowledge and celebrate all of your achievements.

Here’s a bit of inspiration from Tracy Chapman:

“If not now what then
We all must live our lives
Always feeling
Always thinking
The moment has arrived”

Today I am grateful to Barrett Benton for cleaning up my laptop and restoring my internet connection (call him for excellent tech service if you are in NYC), Holly for the laughs, company and food, my warm apartment, new beginnings, long walks on the beach that is within walking distance from my bungalow, Fairway Market, the MTA, all of the new places where I will be teaching this year, God, my book agent, editor and publisher.

Thanks and peace to all!


Are You Ready For The Big One?

“Don’t bunt. Aim out of the ballpark.”
– David Ogilvy

I can’t help myself. I’m thinking big and I’m excited about it. It’s a new year and a new decade and I’m ready for it to be HUGE. How about you?

“Be imaginative, bold and brave! The results may surprise you.” – Jim Allen

On New Year’s Eve I began a three-day Visioning Retreat (brought on by my desire to ring in the new year in quiet contemplation and the worst case of sneezing and sniffling I’ve had in a long time). It was a continuation of a process that had begun just before Christmas. I took time to reflect on the past year and ask myself where I want to be in 1, 5 and 10 years and how I might get there. It was a rewarding experience and now, on Jan. 4, 2010, as I embrace more fully my brilliance as a speaker, writer, instructor and guide, and prepare to ‘take the show on the road’, I ask myself to do exactly what I ask my clients to do:

1) Tell the Universe what you want (in a positive, ‘I AM POSSIBLE and DESERVING’ voice.)
2) Make a commitment to yourself and the manifestation of your goal.
3) Stay focused on your rich vision.
4) Take empowering action toward your goal everyday, and in every possible way.
5) Allow yourself to receive all that you ask for.
6) Be grateful for everything.
7) Acknowledge yourself.
8) Celebrate each and every achievement.

With those Law of Attraction principles set in motion I fully realize and accept that the Universe has many forms of showing me the way, and that each moment on the path is beautiful and perfect if I choose to see it like that. As Pema Chodron says, “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh.”

What BIG, BOLD idea, dream, goal is inspiring you? What actions will you take to see it manifest?

And so it is.

Today I am grateful for big dreams, big actions and big results, unexpected colds that keep me at home, a clean and clutter-free office,
my support team (visible and invisible), hours and hours of music, candlelight, Yogi Tea, my book agent, editor and publisher, my motivational speaking gigs, an abundance of weekly clients, and smiles from strangers.

Thank YOU. Breathe peace!


What Does It Mean To Pursue Happiness?

One of my renewed commitments to myself is to follow impulses and allow my intuition to guide me more often. That’s a New Year’s resolution that I’ve started working on in the past two weeks.

This morning, as I was having a conversation on the phone with my friend Fred about being true to one’s self and being happy in what one does, I followed an impulse and grabbed Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love from my bookshelf. For those of you unfamiliar with that bestseller, it is “a meditation on love in its many forms – love of food, language, humanity, God, and most meaningful for Gilbert, love of self.”

I looked for a passage in the book that I had highlighted a couple of years ago. There it was on page 260:

“I keep remembering one of my Guru’s teachings about happiness. She says that people universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you’re fortunate enough. But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it. If you don’t, you will leak away your innate contentment. It’s easy enough to pray when you’re in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments.”

I read that passage several times and questions formed in my mind. Ah, the Fishing for Soul process continues.

I asked myself, “How tightly am I holding on to my happiness? How and why do I let my thoughts move me away from my innate contentment?”

In response I heard, “Pay attention. Pay attention. Pay attention.”

Another book, Iyanla Vanzant’s Yesterday, I Cried, beckoned to me. I pulled it off the bookshelf and said, “Show me what I need.”

The following quote by John Randolph Price is on page 253, at the beginning of Chapter 17, which is titled ‘What’s the Lesson When You Get the Lesson but Don’t Know What to do With It?’

“Truth must be realized individually.
It must be realized by you, otherwise it is not your Truth.
Only your Truth, not the truth, is expressed in your life, not anyone else’s.
How do you find your truth?
By seeking and finding the teacher within.
You see, the Teacher and the Truth within are one.”

And so it goes…

Today I am grateful for early morning calls with my action partner, questioning myself, exploring my stressful thoughts, Byron Katie, Rosa and Lorna, my intuition, my blog, my wise cat Wicca, hot tea, Truth and Happiness,

Thanks and peace to all!


Thanks for the Reminder Madonna!

‘Say what you like, do what you feel
You know exactly who you are
The time is right now
You got to decide
Stand in the back or be the star.’

– from Madonna’s Beat Goes On

Yes, I’m quoting a line from a Madonna song. I’ve been listening to 2008’s Hard Candy on my iPod during my workouts at the gym. The music, especially Beat Goes On, inspires me to move faster and push a little harder. The quoted lyrics have also grabbed my attention as I review this soon-to-be-ending year and decade, and look forward to 2010.

As the new year approaches I am envisioning myself in some new, unexplored geographical locations, growing my business as I speak in bigger venues, reaching more people through my J.O.B., forming new and powerful professional and personal alliances (that would mean I’ve got a new love, baby), and happily sharing more of myself with the world as I shine brighter and brighter.

I am ready. I am willing. I am open.

Madonna’s song rings in my ears: ‘The time is right now, You got to decide, Stand in the back or be the star.’

There is no time like right now to step into your greatness. Go on, be the star. What are you waiting for?

I’d like to send a shout out to my Facebook friend Thomas who often quotes Madonna song lyrics in his status updates to great affect. Thanks for your humor, intelligence, and inspiration Thomas! Rock on.

Today I am grateful for my Facebook friends and their endless stream of humor and insights, the world wide web, my computer skills, Jennifer at the new mani/pedi place in Chelsea (thanks for the tip Leslie!), my dentist, clean sheets, heat and hot water, my happy cat, bare trees, my body and breath, and the god/goddess in all things.


Thanks and peace to all!


A Powerful and Positive You


‘As you continue to move your life forward into the place that you are dreaming of, please give your self permission to experience the joyfully abundant person that you are NOW.

It does not matter where you were born, what level of education you have, how much money you have, what you own, what your skin color is, how tall you are, or what sex you are. All human beings are capable of creating a life that is powerful and purposeful.

The more POSITIVE you are, the more GRATITUDE you SINCERELY EXPRESS, the more IN LOVE you are with everything, the more you will understand and accept that there are no limits, there never have been limits and there never will be any limits on what is possible.


There is nothing stopping you. When will you BELIEVE that?

Breathe possibility.

All is well.’

– At One and JM

A Fishing for Soul YES! I AM Practice

Sit with your spine as long and tall as possible.
Breathe in gently through your nose and out through your mouth. Give your self time to allow any distracting chatter to slow down.

Close your eyes and begin to create an image in your mind of yourself in a very peaceful, beautiful, happy place, surrounded by things that make you feel safe and secure. It could be in a place in nature, your childhood home, a place that you often dreamed of, etc. From that place, begin to call forth images of the successful, positively prosperous, peaceful and powerful person that YOU ARE NOW and will continue to grow into in the future.

What message do you receive from those images?

Look. Listen. Feel.

Be open.

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Today I am grateful for friends with cars, a healing road trip, Leslie, Fred, Lynn and Greg, abundant silliness, corn bread, Rosa and Mark, the NY State Thruway, connecting with a positive and powerful image of what is possible, birthdays, telling the truth, candlelight, Mexican food, my book agent, editor and publisher, Hay House Publishing and Radio.


Thanks and peace to all, everywhere.


What’s Great About You?


I seem to be more introspective than usual lately. Someone suggested that it may be due to my upcoming birthday and that perhaps I’m doing a little life check-in. Perhaps.

Ever since my birthday in 2001, two months after the events of 9/11 and the passing of a beloved teacher, my intention has been to celebrate myself on my birthday and this year I’m looking for a way to do that again.

As I’m typing at 11:28pm on Sunday, Nov. 1st the song ‘No More Drama’ by Mary J. Blige is playing on iTunes. An excerpt from the lyrics:

“Hooh it feels so good
When you let go
Of all the drama in your life
Now you’re free from all the pain (free from all the pain)
Free from all the games (free from all the games)
Free from all the stress (free from all the stress)
So find your happiness

I don’t know
Only god knows where the story ends for me
But I know where the story begins
It’s up to us to choose
Whether we win or lose
And I choose to win

No more pain
No more games
No drama
No more in my life…”

That’s it! No more drama. That’s what I want for my birthday this year, a drama-free life. I’m going to celebrate the amazing turnaround that has happened over the past 12 months as I’ve watched old drama, old stories, old BS fall away, and I’ll gratefully embrace the people, events, relationships, etc. that reflect my deeper sense of freedom and joy.

All the negative chatter in my head for nearly 44 years caused me incredible pain and, quite frankly, I’m through with it. Of course, as Byron Katie might say, I’m open to it coming around for a visit just in case there’s more to learn from it. But I’d rather learn from joy.

Hmm… Maybe I haven’t been so introspective lately. What I notice now is that I’ve been doing a lot of visioning about the next 20 years of my life – beyond the walls of my home, beyond New York City, and beyond my current work environment. Could it be time to create a new Vision Board that visually describes what I am seeing and hearing in my mind, something that answers the question, “What’s great about me”? I like that.

What’s great about you?


Today I am grateful for another chance to question my thoughts, to practice positive thinking, to see the sun, feel the cool breeze, laugh with friends, laugh at myself, watch my cat knock things off the kitchen table, savor Mexican food, write my blog, listen to my neighbors celebrate the Yankees win over the Phillies in Game 4 of the World Series, and plan another birthday ceremony.

(Be Open t-shirt photo by Sarah Sloboda,

Thanks and peace to all!