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You Irritate the S— Out of Me!

Life is fascinating.

I went to the Cosi café on 13th St. and Broadway on Monday afternoon to have some tea and write about allowing and accepting. As I waited for my computer to boot up I heard a woman sitting near me say to her male companion, “Do you have to say that? You irritate the shit out of me.” Perfect fodder for my blog, I thought.

When I logged on to Cosi’s free internet service, I saw the slogan ‘Cosi: Life Should Be Delicious.’ Hmm… How can life be delicious when we are irritated by the behavior of another?

“When you say that someone is irritating you, you are certainly not allowing them or your self to enjoy what is. A more honest and responsible way to express that would be, ‘I see that I am not happy right now because my thoughts about what you said are irritating me.’

When you identify the source of your irritation, anger, sadness, jealousy, resentment, or fear you can instantly loosen the grip that YOUR THOUGHTS have on you. Yes, it is ultimately your thoughts about any situation that lead to negative feelings and sometimes actions (and words) that cause you to look away from the infinite beauty and excitement of any moment.” – At One

My friend Eduardo is a great teacher. Last year he told me that his goal in life was to be happy. I see that happiness keeps finding him. He holds the intention of happiness and it shows up. Perfect and easy (if you let it be).

We are what we think. What we focus on grows. That’s the Law of Attraction and Manifestation. How is it working for you?

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“I allow All That Is to be All That Is.”

My thanks go out today to Sunday’s powerful At One Alliance; a pleasurable, love-filled Valentine’s Weekend; coziness at Cosi; the NY Shamanic Circle; the world wide web; sunny days; an abundance of new and prosperous business, my book agent, editor and publisher; chocolate; a clear mind and open heart.

Thanks and peace to all!



Is That Love?

Have you ever noticed that when you try to convince someone that your way of loving / caring / honoring / appreciating / being is the ‘right’ way, it most often feels like something other than love?

What’s up with that?

“If you want someone to see things your way, try first to see things their way. Maybe there is something wonderful about their way that you are overlooking.

Love sees everything as possible. Love allows. Love says, ‘That could be interesting.’

Love also sees that yes and no are equally loving answers. When you say yes when you want to say no, is that love? When you say no when you want to say yes, is that love?

Look inside for the answer. You might find that you love the process and along the way you could rediscover the true essence of love.” – At One

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“I let love do the work.”

Thanks to all who read this blog, and to those who show us where love truly lives.


Peace and joy –


Love Is…

“Whatever and whoever you love, love them without limits. Try not to say no to love. Open your arms to it and watch it come to you from a million different sources (or more). Continue to ask love to show you where it lives and you may be surprised where it resides. Of course it is everywhere and in everything and everyone. How can it not be?”
– At One

“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.”
– Johnny Depp in Don Juan DeMarco

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything and love is all there is.”
– Gary Zukav

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.”
– His Holiness the Dalai lama

“Our goal while on this earth is to transcend our illusions and discover the innate power of our spirit. We are responsible for what we create, and we must therefore learn to act and think with love and wisdom and live in service to others and all life.”
– Carolyn Myss

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“I allow love and laughter to fill my life.”

Thanks today to the tranquility that a blanket of snow brings, friends who call and make me laugh, chocolate, my book agent, editor and publisher, wisdom from many sources, my accountant, the IRS, new and prosperous business deals, guidance from diverse sources, and Narativ, Inc.

Have a peace-filled day!


Naming What You Love

The title of today’s post was inspired by a chapter in the book Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach. Simple Abundance is filled with “quotes, poems, meditations and practical exercises for every day of a woman’s year.” Don’t worry guys, there is version for you titled A Man’s Journey to Simple Abundance. (Why do I have the ladies version? Simple: I liked the quotes and my friend Robin was giving the book away. Thanks Robin! BTW, for years I had a copy of the book Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom by Dr. Christiane Northrup. Don’t be afraid to learn about women, gentlemen.)

Back to Simple Abundance. In the chapter that I happened upon this morning (in my search for a love topic), Breathnach invites the reader to ask the question “What is it that I truly love?”, and states, “The only opinion that counts from now on is your own.”

On Sunday I was working with a group of men at the monthly NYC Easton Mountain gathering and asked them to tell five other men in the room what they were passionate about. I invited them to name five passions. “I am passionate about my dogs.” “I am passionate about teaching.” “I am passionate about sex,” came the responses. It was easy for some to rattle off five passions and challenging for others.

“Telling your self and others what excites you and what inspires you is one way to attract more of that into your life. Knowing what you love brings self-awareness and enlightenment to all areas of your life. You could even begin to ask your self ‘What more can I open myself to knowing and loving?’ That attitude will attract peace of mind and peace of heart.” – At One

What, or who, do you love? Can you – dare you – name it?

Here are five things that I love:

1) Naps on the couch
2) The ocean after a storm
3) Staying up all night to finish reading a book
4) Laughing with friends
5) Sharing inspirational messages

(I could also add chocolate, sex, my family, working from home, traveling to foreign countries, meditation…)

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“I love what I love.”

A big, loving gratitude wave goes out to Google, my clients, my cat, my home, the sun, my budding weather expert and friend Holly, all who pay me to facilitate Law of Attraction and Shamanism workshops, my home at the beach, my breath and body, NYC and the MTA.

Thanks and peace to all!


Bring On The Love!

Valentine’s Day is coming up on Sunday (Feb. 14th), so I thought I’d dedicate this weeks posts to the topic of love.

As I sat to type this, two examinations of love appeared on my Google News Sidebar. One is a scientific piece on how love may be measured, and the other is about an Indian woman called Amma who shares love freely through a hug (a hug that I have experienced and wrote about on this site last July).


So we’ve got science and spirit working the love angle.

Here is what my spirit had to say about the subject:

““When was the last time you danced with someone you love?

When was the last time you sat quietly, looking into the eyes of someone you love?

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said, ‘I love you’?

Love will all ways be here, waiting for you to tune in, to acknowledge and receive it. It cannot go away. It lives, endlessly, inside of you and all things.

Love just loves.

How about you?”

Today’s Powerful and Positive Affirmation is:
“Love is all around me. I welcome it all ways.”

Today I am grateful for another opportunity to know love, to joyfully share my vision through this blog, to know and love so many amazing people, and to make money by doing what I love. I am grateful for Odwalla Mango Tango juice, the Jefferson Market Library, ever-changing technology, my new mini-notebook, new and prosperous business opportunities, and my book agent, editor and publisher.

Thanks and peace to all!


Why Should You Forgive?

The word forgiveness floated into my consciousness during two meditations recently. After I heard the word I sat, waiting and listening for further information. When it came I was not surprised by what and who I was being called to forgive. So I set about doing what I was guided to do.

Part of the calling was to write to one of the people and express my gratitude for their presence in my life. As the process unfolded I realized that the forgiveness was really for me, for my evolution and freedom. Of course.

During a writing break I took a look at some status updates on Twitter and noticed that someone had posted a link for a video of Caroline Myss speaking about – what else – forgiveness. The Law of Attraction in Action! How perfect. In that video (below) she tells how forgiveness literally healed a mans crippled legs.

If you’d like to find your freedom through forgiveness, check out my friend Mary Anne Flanagan’s Resting In Radical Forgiveness 4-Week Telecourse
and read Colin Tipping’s book Radical Forgiveness.

Remember: Forgiveness is another name for love, and when we struggle against the natural flow of that energy we often feel pain. Do what you can to feel good. That’s natural.

Here’s an affirmation to help in the process: “Love and forgiveness are what I am.”

Today I am grateful for the ease that life offers all ways, allowing myself to be vulnerable in my forgiveness, scrambled eggs, naps, inner silence, deep listening, the generosity of all people, new, unusual and prosperous business opportunities, my book agent, editor and publisher, my hands and feet, and my parents.


Thanks and peace to all!


Where Does Pleasure Lie?

Pleasure is very seductive. I have found myself caught completely off guard by it, sometimes quite happily, other times not so much. I have been lost in it, loving it, not wanting it to end but knowing it would.

It happened again recently, and afterward I tried to deny the joy that stirred inside of me. It was very painful.

I was grateful to come across the following quote by Byron Katie in her book A Thousand Names for Joy:

“Usually pleasure is a subtle form of discomfort, because even as you’re enjoying sex or food, for example, you cling to your enjoyment; you want it to last, you want more of it, or you’re afraid of losing it even as it’s happening. The difference between pleasure and joy? Ohhh…the difference is from here to the moon – from here to another galaxy! Pleasure is an attempt to fill yourself. Joy is what you are.

In meditation I discovered a similar theme:

“”Have you ever noticed that when you say no to something that will truly bring you pleasure you do not always feel so good?

Pleasure is the pathway to you. Can you allow that to manifest?

In every moment there lies an opportunity to feel the pleasure of what is. Take away the doubt and fear. Let your most intuitive self guide you to where the pleasure all ways lies waiting – inside of you.”

And so it is.

Today I am grateful for an abundance of pleasure, pre-dawn stillness, morning meditation, action calls, understanding the Law of Attraction, dreaming big dreams, the gym, Yogi Tea, the delete key on my laptop, the ability to press send, prosperous business opportunities, my book agent, editor and publisher.

Thanks and peace to all!